Alcoholism in the family is often tied to dysfunctional relationships and unhealthy home environments. It can affect the way families communicate and spend time together. It can also impact the way children develop. Let’s look at some of these situations as well as review tips to help you manage how alcoholism can impact family dynamics.
Alcoholism in marriage
Alcohol abuse can have a negative impact on marriage. Research shows that alcoholism can increase divorce rates by at least 20% over typical divorce rates. Additionally, after divorce, expenditure on alcoholic beverages tend to increase.
Without coping techniques and support, alcohol abuse in marriage can lead to irrational actions. It can even lead to acts of domestic violence. Among other things, alcoholism within this family unit can cause:
- dysfunctional communication
- mental health concerns
Children in families with alcoholism
In families with alcoholism, behaviors and dynamics can negatively impact children. It can also affect how they function later in life.
Family environments where alcoholism is present can be traumatic. In the short term, children may self-punish and develop demanding or indifferent behavior. These actions can impact the relationship of the child with the non-alcoholic parent. The child may see him or her as an enabler.
Some symptoms of alcoholism in families that may develop later in life include:
- post-traumatic stress disorder
- anxiety disorder
Children with alcoholic parents may undergo harsh punishment and abuse. Over time, this results in a growing alienation of the children from parents. They may seek alternative social environments or forms of escape.
It is important to note, however, that children are resilient and have the ability to develop individual, effective, coping styles.
Very often, teens who struggle with alcohol addiction (or drug addiction) have family members who also struggle. There are cases, however, where teens develop an addiction even when parents do not.
Be aware of family members’ behaviors and their potential impact on teens. Parents who fight or who are absent can push their teen to look for an escape from uncomfortable circumstances at home. They may develop these behaviors alone. Or they may seek out friends who are older or who have similar behaviors.
Tips to manage how alcoholism can impact family dynamics
Everyone is affected when substance abuse is a concern. It is essential to fight against denial. That includes denial that alcoholism is a problem, denial that alcoholism is affecting the family and denial that we may sometimes adopt enabling behaviors.
Do not enable the behavior
If you have a loved one who is struggling with alcohol addiction, you may make the mistake of enabling them. Doing things for your loved that he can do himself or directly assisting her with symptoms of her addiction are enabling behaviors.
Strive to avoid enabling behaviors such as:
- lying for your loved one at work or with friends when he is not present due to alcohol abuse
- taking care of her responsibilities
- being lenient when he turns to alcohol again
- making excuses for her bad behavior
- loaning him money
- bailing her out of jail
- drinking alcohol with him
- buying alcohol for her
Enabling doesn’t protect your family member from struggling with alcohol. It also doesn’t protect him from the effects of his actions. But it may actually encourage his behavior from continuing or worsening.
Helping your family member means doing what is in her best interest in the long run. This often includes:
- supporting her when she is seeking help for alcoholism
- calling her out for making excuses
- driving her to a support group meeting
Address the issues as a family
Denial is a common trait among those struggling with alcohol addiction. They often deny that they have a problem and refuse to seek help. In some cases, they fear being labeled as dysfunctional.
If you have a loved one who is ready to admit their problem, have the difficult conversations as a family. This includes talking about what it means to support him through the process of recovering from alcohol dependence. It is also important for the family members of alcoholics to open up about how addictive behavior affects them.
Seek support for children
As mentioned above, children and adolescents may discover ways to cope. These will allow for healthy social and emotional development.
Psychological and therapeutic support for children of an alcoholic parent or sibling can assist children in developing constructive coping mechanisms. These will help them throughout their childhood, teen years and for later in life.
Focus on family well-being
April is Alcohol Awareness Month. It’s the perfect time to commit to changing the way alcoholism affects your family.
Consider what changes you can make to this month to the way your family supports a loved one struggling with addiction. This may include:
- seeking treatment for your own stress and anxiety
- helping guide your loved one to her first support group meeting
- asking your friends and family to help you stage an intervention
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Sasha deBeausset is a nutritional anthropologist and licensed nutritionist with a B.A. from Tufts University and a M.Sc. in Food and Nutrition from the University of San Carlos. She has been awarded for her academic writing and research, and she has been blogging on food, health, and nutrition for over five years. Sasha is passionate about contributing to making quality and research-based information available freely on the web so people can inform themselves and make better decisions for their health.